I was taught from birth to believe in the myth of perfection, to expect
perfection from myself, and to demand it from others.  Now I am 56 and know
that those standards guarantee failure.

My adjustment to this has been to adopt new standards, for myself and
others, primarily based on candor, not perfect honesty, but good faith
candor.

E-mail makes it too easy for  imperfectly considered thoughts to be
dsitributed, beyond recall, throughout a community.  Sometimes offense is
given, and sometimes people are deeply hurt.  We can excommunicate the
person who pushed the send key too quickly, or we can accept their later
considered candor.   Excommunication doesn't work for me.

MJ