RE: wife needs help/advice or moral support/ from worried husband

From:"LaFriniere, Mike"

Bill,

What a sad situation your wife is in. Sadly,I have seen this happen before,
however there is not alot that can be done within the current position she
is in. I know there are alot of positions Nation wide for such a talented
person. My recommendation is to advise her to find another lab to work for
as soon as posible. If the Pathologists do not support her talents now, then
they do not demonstrate respect for talented histologists or her as a
person. With the job market today, if she was to leave the Patholgoists she
works for, they will find out soon enough that they were wrong in the way
they were treating her and at that point it will be to late for them. There
are many job postings on the histonet as well as in the Advance Magazine. I
also think the NSH office may have posings. I would recommend to check into
these areas to see if there is an opening close by your area. Tell her to
look at the things she has accomplish with excellence already, and keep here
chin up. What she has experienced at the present lab will make her stronger
and give her alot of experience for the next job/position that comes to
apply for... 

Best of luck to both of you, PS.. she is also very fortunate to have such a
caring husband...

Kind Regards..

Michael LaFriniere PA,HT(ASCP)
NSH Region III Director
Manager of Pathology Services
Memorial Hospital
Chattanooga, TN 37343
423-495-6117
-----Original Message-----
From: WArnold546@aol.com [mailto:WArnold546@aol.com]
Sent: Thursday, January 16, 2003 2:45 PM
To: histonet@pathology.swmed.edu
Subject: wife needs help/advice or moral support/ from worried husband


DONT WANT TO MAKE A LONG STORY BUT MY WIFE IS RESIGNING FROM HER HISTOLOGY 
SUPERVISORY POSITION, TOMMORROW. SHE HAS BEEN IN THIS POSITION FOR ALMOST 
8YEARS. SHE LOVES HER WORK AND IS REALLY GOOD AT WHAT SHE DOES. THE PROBLEM 
HAS BEEN HER LAB MANAGER AND 1 OF THE DOCTORS. TO NOT GET IN DEPTH WITH THE 
PROBLEM LETS JUST SAY THEY HAVE MADE HER LIFE HELL FOR 8 YEARS BY SLANDERING

HER REPUTATION TO NEW WORKERS UNDER HER, SELL REPS, ETC. HER LAB MANAGER 
TELLS PEOPLE THAT SHE TREATS PEOPLE REALLY BAD, HAS NO PEOPLE SKILLS OR 
SUPERVISORY SKILLS. SHE KNOWS THIS BECAUSE THE PEOPLE HAVE COME TO HER AND 
ASKED HER IF SHE KNEW WHAT HE WAS SAYING ABOUT HER! THE DOCTOR WOULD YELL A 
HER IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE AND TELL SELLS REPS THAT SHE NEEDS TRAINING AND

DOESN'T KNOW WHAT SHE IS DOING. WHEN THEY CHECKED ON HER MANUALS THEY WERE
IN 
ORDER AND SHE WAS DOING EVERYTHING CORRECTLY. THEY WOULD THEN WANT TO KNOW 
WHY IS THE DOCTOR SAYING THESE THINGS. ALL MY WIFE WANTED TO DO WAS BE ABLE 
TO DO THE WORK THAT SHE LOVES AND IS TALENTED IN DOING. SHE HAS GONE THRU 3 
CAP INSPECTIONS AND HAS DONE PERFECT ON ALL OF THEM. ON ONE OF THEM, THE 
INSPECTING DOCTOR GAVE A COMPLIMENT TO MY WIFE AND THE DOCTOR SHE WORKS WITH

JUST SAID HE COULD REPLACE HER WITH THE SECRETARY. SHE HAS NEVER HAD A WRITE

UP AGAINST HER IN 8 YEARS AND WONDERS WHY IF SHE IS SO BAD! SHE DOESN'T KNOW

WHAT TO DO EXCEPT TO RESIGN BUT IS EXTREMELY DEPRESSED BECAUSE THERE ARE NOT

MANY HISTOLOGY JOBS HERE IN THE RIO GRANDE VALLEY AND FEELS HER CAREER IS 
OVER. SHE IS ONLY 33 AND IT IS AN INJUSTICE THAT SHE IS BEING DONE THIS WAY.

I AM HER HUSBAND AND LOVE HER VERY MUCH AND WANT TO HELP IN ANY WAY
POSSIBLE. 
I AM HOPING THAT SOME OF YOU OUT THERE CAN GIVE HER ADVICE OR ENCOURAGEMENT 
OVER THIS ORDEAL. THANKYOU IF YOU CAN!!!!! WRITE TO WARNOLD546@AOL OR CALL 
956 584-6874 
MY WIFES NAME IS CONSUELO ARNOLD AND MY NAME IS BILL THANKYOU AGAIN!!




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